Putting all that aside, i have the perfect family and i know im lucky to have this as there are so many lesbians and gay men out there who want to have children and dont have the facilities. Alot of our friends have come up to us said asked how we did it and that they really want children with their partners. And all we can say is that there is no secret to it, theres no knack, we were just lucky to have someone who would help us!